Picking Up Moms

picking-up-momsMaking Mom friends…ughhhhhh. Why is it when we have children, it is so much harder to make friends when we need friends so much more?

It’s not just Moms…but it’s the “Mom-age”. You’re officially an adult (sorry about that) so making friends is just plain difficult. You know what’s easy? Making friends when you’re a kid. At some point in your kid life, you get jammed in a room full of other kids for an extended period of time and all you have to do is simply start playing beside other like-minded maniacs and BOOM, BFFs. Moms? We’re so afraid! Will they like me? What if they’re Uber-Mom? My house is a mess! I can’t have playdates! Her diaper bag is so much more organized than mine! She’s feeding her kids bear paws and I have carrot sticks…how could we get along? What’s her stance on vaccines? She’s so pretty-is that lip gloss…I was lucky to get my greasy hair in a ponytail this morning…Ahhh!

Screw it.

Let’s collectively decide as Moms to be open and embrace other Mom-folk into our inner circle (Unless, y’know, they’re jerks). We’re all doing the same things. Having kids, raising kids. Same issues, same ages and stages. If you strike up a conversation with another Mom, your kids get along, and you feel like you might want to have coffee sometime, pick her up. PICK UP THAT MOM. Get her number. Ask her out. It’s okay-she’s probably waiting for you to do it and once it’s out there, you’ll both be relieved that you said something!

I speak from experience. I’ve picked up Moms in parks, playgroups, cookie exchanges, swimming lessons and beaches. They haven’t always lasted, but some were fun for a while. Moms need each other. We need to talk, vent, and relate to other Moms. We need to know we’re not the only ones going through this. That we’re not insane.

So the next time you see that new Mom in the corner, timid, isolated, playing with her baby, ask her out for coffee. Make an effort. You’ll be happy you did and who knows? You might have made a new friend for life.

Advice for new Moms or Moms that are looking to make new friends? Get out there! Jam yourself into a room full of other Moms, whether it be a playgroup, cooking class, book club or coffee house, get out of your house and your head and talk to people. Now get out there and pick up!

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Seanna Thomas

Seanna Thomas is a Registered Holistic Nutritionist living in Ontario, Canada. She works as a personal consultant and freelance writer out of her home and teaches healthy lifestyle cooking classes to both adults and children in the area. She is a mother to three children, all under the age of six and her husband works as a medic in the Canadian military. Although Seanna is educated in all aspects of nutrition, she focuses on realistic clean eating with a spotlight on healthy family habits. She is known online as the "Nutritionnaire" and writes a weekly blog. She can also be found on Twitter, will soon have a Facebook page, and a website is in the works! In her downtime, she enjoys being outdoors with her family and relaxing at home with her husband and a well-deserved glass of wine.