Making Mom friends…ughhhhhh. Why is it when we have children, it is so much harder to make friends when we need friends so much more?
It’s not just Moms…but it’s the “Mom-age”. You’re officially an adult (sorry about that) so making friends is just plain difficult. You know what’s easy? Making friends when you’re a kid. At some point in your kid life, you get jammed in a room full of other kids for an extended period of time and all you have to do is simply start playing beside other like-minded maniacs and BOOM, BFFs. Moms? We’re so afraid! Will they like me? What if they’re Uber-Mom? My house is a mess! I can’t have playdates! Her diaper bag is so much more organized than mine! She’s feeding her kids bear paws and I have carrot sticks…how could we get along? What’s her stance on vaccines? She’s so pretty-is that lip gloss…I was lucky to get my greasy hair in a ponytail this morning…Ahhh!
Let’s collectively decide as Moms to be open and embrace other Mom-folk into our inner circle (Unless, y’know, they’re jerks). We’re all doing the same things. Having kids, raising kids. Same issues, same ages and stages. If you strike up a conversation with another Mom, your kids get along, and you feel like you might want to have coffee sometime, pick her up. PICK UP THAT MOM. Get her number. Ask her out. It’s okay-she’s probably waiting for you to do it and once it’s out there, you’ll both be relieved that you said something!
I speak from experience. I’ve picked up Moms in parks, playgroups, cookie exchanges, swimming lessons and beaches. They haven’t always lasted, but some were fun for a while. Moms need each other. We need to talk, vent, and relate to other Moms. We need to know we’re not the only ones going through this. That we’re not insane.
So the next time you see that new Mom in the corner, timid, isolated, playing with her baby, ask her out for coffee. Make an effort. You’ll be happy you did and who knows? You might have made a new friend for life.
Advice for new Moms or Moms that are looking to make new friends? Get out there! Jam yourself into a room full of other Moms, whether it be a playgroup, cooking class, book club or coffee house, get out of your house and your head and talk to people. Now get out there and pick up!
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